Wednesday, September 06, 2006

The Bridal Shower

Last weekend, I returned to the coast for an old friend's bridal shower. It was a nice experience, but I'd like to start by telling you a little about the Guest of Honor, Jessica.
We met in 9th grade (when I moved to Gulfport) through mutual friends and shared classes. However, it wasn't until 10th grade, when we both joined the High School Colorguard (band), that we got to be friends. At first all the "rookies" hung out together, but we quickly separated into our pairs and cliques (you remember how that high school drama was). Jess and I were the definition of B.F.F.! We planned class schedules together, passed notes, had sleepovers, gossipped about everybody else, and shared many intimate stories. Throughout high school, she was the best friend a girl could ask for. We trusted each other and never betrayed that trust (a hard thing to do when there's so much drama). Of course, we had our little arguments, and did some things with our "other" (non-mutual) friends, but for those 3 years, it was Celina and Jessica, BFF! Oh, I guess I should mention that she also has a twin sister.
Then, we started college. We both came to MSU, and lived 3 doors down from each other. We were both members of the Air Force ROTC (although she had gotten their full scholarship), Honor's Society, and intermural soccer team. Slowly things changed. She started meeting more people in different social circles (read: sorority/fraternity), attending real college parties, and moving away from our friendship. That freshman year we realized (or at least I realized) how different we were/are. Sophomore year, she and her sister joined a sorority, became more involved in the AFROTC, and we practically lost touch.
The last time I saw Jessica was about 4 years ago when she stayed at our house for the weekend (yes, it was sort of out of the blue, but whatever). Last time I heard from her was nearly 2 years ago, when she called (left a voicemail message) offering "Congratulations" for mine and R's upcoming wedding.
Since "losing touch," she's completed college (bachelor's), joined the Air Force (Ms Lieutenant), moved to California, then Montana (I know, what are the chances), and met her very own Mr. Perfect.
Seeing her (and her sister) again after so long brought me to the reality of my Developing Maturity. I now realize that my hurt feelings of losing such a wonderful friendship were justified, but not necessary. More than that, I realize how thankful I am that I had such a wonderful friend for those years. Someone I could count on. A best friend I could talk to, trust, and yes, love.
Also, I realize why her sister and I were not exactly friends. We're very much alike. She's also an amazing woman, and I can now appreciate her strong, opinonated, and sometimes judgemental personality (cuz hey, that's just like me).
Finally, being around the two of them for those few hours made me all the more grateful for My Very Own Best Friend, AJ. In the picture are left to right: Jessica, me, AJ, and Jennifer.

Let me add one more thing... I could say a few more things about the whole Bridal Shower experience, but I'm trying to keep this thing very positive... so I won't... :) I will just say that I didn't appreciate the little side comment about not wanting "a cake from Walmart." Okay, so your bridal shower cake probably cost more than my wedding cake (from Walmart), but I didn't hear anyone complaining! Yep, I can definitely see clearly why we're not close friends...

7 Comments:

At 10:28 PM, Blogger MzAriez 's valuable input...

It is interesting how some people just connect for a lifetime and others for just a moment or two in life. I thought my best friend from high school would always be connected to me. I had no clue that we would go in separate direction and I would meet a new best friend. Life seems to work that way at times.

I hope you had a good time anyways even with the comments.

Take care.

 
At 8:25 AM, Blogger ccw 's valuable input...

I'm glad you were able to gain some new perspective on the friendship. Often it is better to let a friendship go into this state than to try to force it to fit your new lifestyles.

That cake is beautiful and more elaborate than the showers I have hosted/attended.

 
At 8:44 AM, Blogger JustRun 's valuable input...

It's funny how our perspectives change as we get older and stop comparing ourselves to others (well, some of us anyway). At least it gets easier to see the purpose of everyone in our lives.

 
At 9:13 AM, Blogger Celina 's valuable input...

I did have a nice time (made especially so by the attendance of AJ). And, I am proud of myself for recognizing the positive impacts Jessica (and Jennifer, for that matter) had on my life rather than focusing on the negatives.

And, you know what "they" say: Everything happens for a reason!

 
At 9:27 AM, Blogger Mon 's valuable input...

That cake looks really expensive! I didn't know Wal mart made such fancy stuff!

I read once that what we dislike in others is often our own strongest personality trait. The more you think about that...the more you realize it is true.

 
At 10:42 AM, Blogger Celina 's valuable input...

Mon: That cake is NOT from walmart, that was her bridal shower cake. I was saying that that little cake probably cost more than my 3 tier WEDDING cake from walmart (which I thought was very pretty, now I have to find pics to show y'all).

 
At 7:19 AM, Blogger Janet 's valuable input...

In my experience, so many great girls turn into bridezillas when it comes time for things like the wedding, the shower and the bachlorette party. I'm not married yet, and call me crazy, but I'd rather have the bulk of the money that goes towards a wedding to go towards my actual life after the wedding. Remember those?:)

 

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